Go Suck a Lemon: Strategies for Improving Your Emotional Intelligence
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Go Suck a Lemon: Strategies for Improving Your Emotional Intelligence
Many of your emotional responses, regardless of how much strength you've given them, can be brought down, deconstructed and reshaped. You will just have to learn how to give your knee-jerk response to emotional stimuli less strength - LESS OF A JERK. To do that you will have to commit to reinventing the way you think and behave. With Go Suck a Lemon, you will approach that task by accepting and then adapting to a no-nonsense style of emotional problem solving. You will learn and use a process of level-headed decision-making. You will try to become more efficient, flexible and open-minded when addressing your emotional problems. You will learn that there is always another emotional option. You will learn to make fact-based observations, something most of us are unfamiliar with doing. You will also incorporate in vivo (in life) exposure, i.e., homework, to encourage you to independently act against your learned thoughts and behaviors. In the end, you will become more informed, increasingly more capable and far more emotionally self-reliant. Instead of being your own worst enemy, you will become your own best friend - your own therapist.
We may be strengthened when we learn to be emotionally self-reliant, to free ourselves from emotional helplessness and our dependence on others for our emotional solutions.
MESSAGE TO READERS
I am truly honored that you’ve chosen Go Suck a Lemon to help achieve your goal of improved emotional intelligence.
I meet with people from all walks of life, all economic and educational backgrounds and lifestyles. These pages resemble in nearly every way how I plan and implement my encounters with my own clients in face-to-face therapy. Of course there are some variations in how I approach each client, but I always begin with PREPARING my client’s mind for learning – providing an environment for growing accustomed to the unfamiliar concepts they will hear more about as therapy progresses. Subsequent sessions build upon one another, eventually providing opportunities for acquiring more complex skills.
The degree of improvement in emotional intelligence (EI) you wish to achieve may take time. After all, you’ve been doing what you do now most of your life. Replacing your self-defeating thoughts and behaviors with a more rational, intentional system of emotional problem-solving won’t be easy.
INTELLECTUAL INSIGHT (knowing and understanding what you are reading and learning) alone cannot be relied upon to bring about the EI improvement you are likely seeking. You will have to commit to both intellectual insight and ACTIVE BEHAVIOR CHANGE. It isn’t enough to simply understand. I will provide you with the information. YOU will have to use that information to begin to think and behave differently.