First of all I need to say that this is not a book about purity rings and saving yourself for marriage—or is it? Early in our relationship, my boyfriend Tim and I decided that I should stay chaste until we got married. At twenty-two, I was still a virgin. I guess in this day and age, that might be pretty uncommon. I wont deny that I was nervous about popping my cherry. And since I had already waited this long, perhaps I could hold on a little longer and still be a virgin bride? On the other hand though, I wasn't a virgin at all. I loved Tim and I wanted to please him. And of course, there's nothing that says a man needs to be a virgin when he gets married. So, we ended up doing just about everything you can think of except having vaginal sex—and I mean everything. This is the story of how I fell in love with my husband and how we both came to embrace female chastity as a BDSM fetish. I know that when I first agreed to Tim's proposal that I go into chastity for him, I had a lot of questions. I also hope to answer some of the many questions newcomers must have about this amazing lifestyle, such as:
Why would a self-declared feminist submit to a chastity lifestyle? How can you start a chastity relationship of your own? What does a woman in chastity think of male chastity? How can you and your man still have sex if you're in chastity? Why do I stay in chastity even after I have lost my virginity?