The Soul of Discipline: The Simplicity Parenting Approach to

The Soul of Discipline: The Simplicity Parenting Approach to Warm, Firm, and Calm Guidance- From Toddlers to Teens

In this groundbreaking book, parenting expert and acclaimed author of the bestselling book Simplicity Parenting Kim John Payne, M.Ed., flips the script on childrenâ€™s challenging or defiant behavior and lays out an elegantly simple plan to support parents in establishing loving, age-sensitive boundaries that help children feel safe and settled. In short: What looks like misbehavior is actually your childrenâ€™s signal that theyâ€™re feeling lost, that they are trying to find direction and looking to you to guide them back on course.
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Payne gives parents heartwarming help and encouragement by combining astute observations with sensitive and often funny stories from his long career as a parent educator and a school and family counselor. In accessible language, he explains the relevance of current brain- and child-development studies to day-to-day parenting. Breaking the continuum of childhood into three stages, Payne says that parents need to play three different roles, each corresponding to one of those stages, to help steer children through their emotional growth and inevitable challenging times:
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â€¢ The Governor, who is comfortably and firmly in chargeâ€”setting limits and making decisions for the early years up to around the age of eight
â€¢ The Gardener, who watches for emotional growth and makes decisions based on careful listening, assisting tweens in making plans that take the whole familyâ€™s needs into account
â€¢ The Guide, who is both a sounding board and moral compass for emerging adults, helping teens build a sense of their lifeâ€™s direction as a way to influence healthy decision making
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Practical and rooted in common sense, The Soul of Discipline gives parents permission to be warm and nurturing but also calm and firm (not overreactive). It gives clear, doable strategies to get things back on track for parents who sense that their childrenâ€™s behavior has fallen into a troubling pattern. And best of all, it provides healthy direction to the entire family so parents can spend less time and energy on outmoded, punitive discipline and more on connecting with and enjoying their kids.

Advance praise for The Soul of Discipline
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â€œThe Soul of Discipline offers practical tools for helping parents implement discipline thatâ€™s respectful and effective, but the book is so much more. Kim John Payne offers a framework to guide parents in making decisions about why, when, and how to hold tighter reins as we build skills in our children, and why, when, and how to loosen the reins as we scaffold freedom.â€â€”Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D., co-author of No-Drama Discipline
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â€œThis book gets deep inside the challenge of getting along with children and teens and thinks deeply about what they need from us to become strong and self-managing. It elevates discipline to what it should beâ€”a caring process of helping kids orient to the world and live in it happily and well.â€â€”Steve Biddulph, author of The New Manhood
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â€œKim Payne provides a useful model for choosing our parenting stanceâ€”Governor, Gardener, or Guideâ€”depending on the situation. Most powerfully, Payne begins with the radical view that children are not disobedient but rather disoriented. The upshot of this shift in perspective is that discipline is about helping children orient themselves effectively, not about controlling or chastising.â€â€”Lawrence J. Cohen, Ph.D., author of Playful Parenting

From the Hardcover edition.
Country USA
Manufacturer Ballantine Books
Binding Kindle Edition
ReleaseDate 2015-06-02
Format Kindle eBook

Country	USA
Manufacturer	Ballantine Books
Binding	Kindle Edition
ReleaseDate	2015-06-02
Format	Kindle eBook

The Soul of Discipline: The Simplicity Parenting Approach to Warm, Firm, and Calm Guidance- From Toddlers to Teens

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